I could not wait any longer to share with you the profound happiness I feel for my Granddaughter in her journey of finding the realization of what a true and real mother feels like ! She and her little young family experienced a beautiful travel trip and visit with her mother , her mother's husband and her half sister . It appears like there would not be a better way to describe this great life experience other than beautiful ! And , it sounds like it was LOVE, LOVE and MORE LOVE !
All through the years her mother was yearning to have her daughter as a part of her life - - - - like she had always been a part of her heart !
My Granddaughter has evolved into an impressive woman . She is married to an exceptional partner . Remember it takes work of two people to have exceptional partnering ! The mother of two children. Finished her Bachelor of Science Degree while working part time and pregnant with their second child . She has been substitute teaching and continuing with her education (on line) taking 18 units each term to complete a teaching credential . When she recently received her grades she was disappointed when she received one B grade along with all A's ! And , she also was home schooling the last month or so due to the pandemic . All of this along with being A Mother and A Wife which is no easy task on its own ! If it is worth having it is worth working for . And , most people have to work for what they want !
My life is one of many compartments and this is one of utmost JOY .
Thank you for sharing this JOY with me .
Mary
I have always tried to be by her side as best I could as she traveled through her tumultuous life from infancy . Early on I was not allowed to be involved even when the military brought them from Korea to the States when she was about 2 years of age ! She is a beautiful biracial human being !!! Eventually , she was able to learn about me and who I am ! Through brief summer vacation visits when she was old enough to come alone we became closely bonded as Grandma and Granddaughter . The years were nothing resembling normal for her and it is difficult for me to comprehend how traumatic and dysfunctional her day to day existence was including a very emotionally and physically abusive step-mother during her high school years and thereafter until not to long ago when she took the stance of "enough is enough" . "I will live my own life - thank you" . But she always knew she had my never ending unconditional love even when we had very little interaction and the relationship was threatened by outside influences . Sadly , some of the fall-out of her life of just surviving landed in my lap . By that I mean , I was not at her college graduation or her wedding but she knew my love was with her .
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And , when the time most miraculously came about a couple years ago that was leading up to possible reunification with her mother I strongly but gently encouraged her to soften her heart and to nurture the process . It is so difficult when falsehoods are planted in a babies/child's head about an absent parent . We know it happens all to often . But, I did not have any idea of the magnitude of the damaging dialogue which she experienced until she recently shared with me .
And , when the time most miraculously came about a couple years ago that was leading up to possible reunification with her mother I strongly but gently encouraged her to soften her heart and to nurture the process . It is so difficult when falsehoods are planted in a babies/child's head about an absent parent . We know it happens all to often . But, I did not have any idea of the magnitude of the damaging dialogue which she experienced until she recently shared with me .
All through the years her mother was yearning to have her daughter as a part of her life - - - - like she had always been a part of her heart !
My Granddaughter has evolved into an impressive woman . She is married to an exceptional partner . Remember it takes work of two people to have exceptional partnering ! The mother of two children. Finished her Bachelor of Science Degree while working part time and pregnant with their second child . She has been substitute teaching and continuing with her education (on line) taking 18 units each term to complete a teaching credential . When she recently received her grades she was disappointed when she received one B grade along with all A's ! And , she also was home schooling the last month or so due to the pandemic . All of this along with being A Mother and A Wife which is no easy task on its own ! If it is worth having it is worth working for . And , most people have to work for what they want !
My life is one of many compartments and this is one of utmost JOY .Thank you for sharing this JOY with me .
Mary
What a lovely story. Families are so important and can be the source of great joy, and sadly, great anguish. I'm glad this is a happy chapter.
ReplyDeleteI remember reading about your granddaughter over the years. She is an impressive young lady. You gave her such love and support. I remember the purple afghan you knit for her! She is so lucky to have you as her grandmother.
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